Fluid sexuality. Pansexual. I had to use a dictionary and Google over the New Year holidays to understand what an article meant when discussing the sexual lives of some of the most well known names in Hollywood. Some were gay or lesbian. Others described themselves as bisexual. I understood that. When others described themselves as pansexual or as fluid sexually, however, I needed help.
nonbinary.org says these persons “have different gender identities at different times. A genderfluid individual’s gender identity could be multiple genders at once, and then switch to none at all, or move between single gender identities.” Miley Cyrus explained in an interview with Hollywood Life, “I don’t relate to being boy or girl, and I don’t have to have my partner relate to boy or girl. My Gender Identity Is ‘Fluid’”.
Digging deeper I discovered this is not new. Rather it at least dates in America to the late 1940’s. Joanna Walters interviewed Scotty Bowers for the Guardian newspaper to talk about his book “Full Service: My Adventures in Hollywood and the Secret Sex Lives of the Stars”. Bowers, kept his mouth shut for 60 years, but now is talking about his work as a gigolo and pansexual as well as volunteering his services as a sex fixer to the stars during Hollywood’s golden age.
His book includes a long list of glittering screen icons he says he bedded and liaisons he arranged – both gay and straight – for the movie business elite in Los Angeles, including Katharine Hepburn, Spencer Tracy, and Rock Hudson. He recalls the first time he met Hepburn and the host explaining that Hepburn’s movie studio honchos had been pleading with her not to advertise the fact that she was gay. “Actors, major directors and producers had ‘morals’ clauses in their contracts, which they would have violated by being openly known as gay or bisexual,” Bowers explains. He told the New York Times, ““I never saw the fascination. So they liked sex how they liked it. Who cares?”
“What one generation tolerates, the next generation will embrace,” said John Wesley. A generation ago being pansexual was quietly tolerated. Today, President Obama in his State of the Union Address to Congress embraced the practice when he urged us to “see ourselves…not as gay or straight, immigrant or native born, not as Democrats or Republicans, but as Americans first.”
Should anyone care? Is it merely personal preference? Does one person’s actions in private have any effect on others? Scotty Bowers did not connect his being serially molested by pedophile family acquaintances and becoming a teenage rent boy while growing up in Illinois to his voracious sexual appetite and fluid sexuality. Should he? Does how you define “family” matter to the strength and fabric of society? Has what was generally universally taught for millennium as truth no longer important for future generations? Who has done the research on the consequences of such a cataclysmic shift? Dare society take such a step without being sure the ground under foot is solid?
What is taught in the first five books of the Bible and the New Testament book of Romans contrasts starkly with today’s media headliners. Sexual sins always make the list of God’s most important “These actions will bring you to ruin”. The prophet Jeremiah asks, “Are they ashamed of their loathsome conduct? No, they have no shame at all; they do not even know how to blush”. Wise King Solomon in Proverbs states, “There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death.”
One man and one woman for a lifetime is how God created us to live. Society is speeding away from this point at an alarming rate. GLBTQ, polygamy, and fluid sexuality are being accepted rather than encouraging its participants to find a healthier alternative to their desires.
Deal with the exceptions and problems. It is not enough not to be as bad as someone else. truly is amazing. A loving heavenly Father wants more for those He has created than this. He wrote it down in a book, the Bible, the way to have an abundant and eternal life. Jesus died to offer it to every man, woman, and child.
Randy Alcorn perhaps said it best, “The last thing I want to do is hurt or offend you. But our job is not just to help each other feel better. If I truly love you, and I do, I will come to you as Jesus did, in grace and truth. Not truth without grace, not grace without truth, but with both.”